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The most important thing is to enjoy your life—to be happy—it’s all that matters. – Audrey Hepburn
We all give our best everyday whether at home or work to get the best we deserve. We put our heart and soul into work,family,friends to reach our goals and finally be happy about it.
If you pay attention to my sentence above you will notice the word ‘Happy‘ came at the end – Why? its more to do with our thoughts and actions and that’s how we all become happy.
Everyone of us has something we are all working towards.
First and foremost :
Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions. ~ Dalai Lama XIV
As expressed in quote above – we can make ourselves happy by our actions.We work towards it – it can be something as simple as buying flowers for your wife,gifting a soft toy to a kid you know,taking your sibling for a movie treat or doing something for your parents or friends.Being happy usually is not related to something big but something simple.Pay attention to the daily routine and you might be surprised,the simplest things make you most happy.
Now something related to the “actions” we are taking towards our happiness:
Now and then it’s good to pause in our pursuit of happiness and just be happy. – Guillaume Apollinaire
You might be familiar with this scenario,in fact we all are.
Let me do x and then i will do y – or if i workout daily and drop 10 kilograms (action) i will celebrate it(outcome= happy). Lot of times we end up just working towards our goals/happiness,getting too engrossed in it ,we forget to celebrate small victories.
Continuing with the same example,dropping 10 kilograms won’t be possible if we don’t drop the 1’st kg.Eventually we will knock that 1’st damn kg off but we do not acknowledge it and we instead focus on the end goal which at times does not make us happy at all when we finally accomplish it.By all means the fixed end goal is needed,but we need to keep checking milestones that would take us to that end point.
Why sometimes reaching the end point does not make us happy? As priorities/preferences/situations they all change(Yes it depends) – so its better that we acknowledge and enjoy every small and bigger victories alike and not get too indulged in goals which may not matter after a certain point of time – Celebrate those baby steps moments.
Thinking of babies,kids in general
Children are happy because they don’t have a file in their minds called “All the Things That Could Go Wrong. ~ Marianne Williamson
Lot of wise men/women suggest that we be childlike – well i am sure they are all right about this one.If you observe kids in general,they have this magic trick up their sleeves – they can be happy all the time (if they want to 🙂 ). Watch them going through their normal day,they can talk to pets,play for as long as they want,dance at any song without thinking about the crowd.Challenge a kid and you would know they will give it all without worrying too much about it. In real life we cannot always be ‘kid-like’ but yeah most of the times we can just learn to be happy like them – what do you think – i think i can and i am sure you can too.
Talking about all this,honestly this post may help someone(i will be delighted) even if it does not- i won’t be sad about writing this one.
To sum up it up,let me leave you with a simple rule:
Rules for Happiness: something to do,someone to love,something to hope for. ~ Immanuel Kant
Everyone has their unique way of doing things, and the readers of this blog i am sure will have suggestions,incidents,quotes,books,movies which are close to your heart for the obvious ‘happy’ reasons.
Please feel free to share how you keep yourselves and others around you happy.
I wake up with the feeling that i would at-least find two things in place:
1) Nayi Duniya (local hindi news paper) filled with killer hindi headlines.
2) A glass of tea 🙂
A typical morning tea would have all my family members sitting and sipping tea with our favorite time-pass snacks.
We discuss about the plans for the day – Dad discussing his schedule,mom ready to adjust her schedule for all of our plans,my sister and wife busy planning their shopping and discussing and finally i try to convey that a game of snooker with my friends is of prime importance.
We all,proceed with our plans and it still makes a perfect day.
As time passes,my friends start messaging and calling me to confirm about the plans;the plan which is confirmed already is confirmed again to everyone’s satisfaction.
We all gather almost every-time at my childhood friend Moni’s showroom – we call him Moni(pictured below) as we called him since our childhood days.He was always a big Sega games fan,music and a movie fanatic like me.Currently his interest is fitness.
He is pretty much the king of mobile world in Indore and is always busy with customers flocking his showroom or busy attending calls,yet he finds time to knock few games of snooker with friends.
Another regular is my college time friend – Sachin Bhavsar(pictured below) – the entertainer of our group- dancer,opening batsman of our cricket team,full on Neta(interested in politics and hence says yes for everything),currently working for a company ,he finishes his regular 9-6 job and then meets us in the evening.
There are other regulars who were not in town – Samarth (my cousin),Shakya (Babu Moshay),Piyush(Monu),Ajinkya Abhyankar – as everyone works in different cities,and sometimes countries – they were not available but they are always missed when we gather for the snooker and food gatherings.This post features two of my friends and depending on the stories i have rest of the group will be introduced soon :).
We play few games of snooker,sometimes we just roam around and visit old checkpoints ‘Adda‘ as we call in hindi;just to go back in time and discuss our success,failures and sometimes just plain tea routine,followed by some junk food indulgence.
Every time i leave Indore i ask myself ‘what did i do in this trip?’ – i try to find answer,i try to find some logic out of it.
Frankly there is no logic,neither a desired outcome.I think we are just having a good time.We are keeping things simple and making sure that none of our jobs,locations,success,failures changes anything about our group.
We are simply what we were to each other – typical indori friends having fun in usual indori style.
How about you and your group — if you have similar story or group of friends – feel free to leave a comment or rather share it with the world.