The most important thing is to enjoy your life—to be happy—it’s all that matters. – Audrey Hepburn
We all give our best everyday whether at home or work to get the best we deserve. We put our heart and soul into work,family,friends to reach our goals and finally be happy about it.
If you pay attention to my sentence above you will notice the word ‘Happy‘ came at the end – Why? its more to do with our thoughts and actions and that’s how we all become happy.
Everyone of us has something we are all working towards.
First and foremost :
Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions. ~ Dalai Lama XIV
As expressed in quote above – we can make ourselves happy by our actions.We work towards it – it can be something as simple as buying flowers for your wife,gifting a soft toy to a kid you know,taking your sibling for a movie treat or doing something for your parents or friends.Being happy usually is not related to something big but something simple.Pay attention to the daily routine and you might be surprised,the simplest things make you most happy.
Now something related to the “actions” we are taking towards our happiness:
Now and then it’s good to pause in our pursuit of happiness and just be happy. – Guillaume Apollinaire
You might be familiar with this scenario,in fact we all are.
Let me do x and then i will do y – or if i workout daily and drop 10 kilograms (action) i will celebrate it(outcome= happy). Lot of times we end up just working towards our goals/happiness,getting too engrossed in it ,we forget to celebrate small victories.
Continuing with the same example,dropping 10 kilograms won’t be possible if we don’t drop the 1’st kg.Eventually we will knock that 1’st damn kg off but we do not acknowledge it and we instead focus on the end goal which at times does not make us happy at all when we finally accomplish it.By all means the fixed end goal is needed,but we need to keep checking milestones that would take us to that end point.
Why sometimes reaching the end point does not make us happy? As priorities/preferences/situations they all change(Yes it depends) – so its better that we acknowledge and enjoy every small and bigger victories alike and not get too indulged in goals which may not matter after a certain point of time – Celebrate those baby steps moments.
Thinking of babies,kids in general
Children are happy because they don’t have a file in their minds called “All the Things That Could Go Wrong. ~ Marianne Williamson
Lot of wise men/women suggest that we be childlike – well i am sure they are all right about this one.If you observe kids in general,they have this magic trick up their sleeves – they can be happy all the time (if they want to 🙂 ). Watch them going through their normal day,they can talk to pets,play for as long as they want,dance at any song without thinking about the crowd.Challenge a kid and you would know they will give it all without worrying too much about it. In real life we cannot always be ‘kid-like’ but yeah most of the times we can just learn to be happy like them – what do you think – i think i can and i am sure you can too.
Talking about all this,honestly this post may help someone(i will be delighted) even if it does not- i won’t be sad about writing this one.
To sum up it up,let me leave you with a simple rule:
Rules for Happiness: something to do,someone to love,something to hope for. ~ Immanuel Kant
Everyone has their unique way of doing things, and the readers of this blog i am sure will have suggestions,incidents,quotes,books,movies which are close to your heart for the obvious ‘happy’ reasons.
Please feel free to share how you keep yourselves and others around you happy.
- Happiness Versus Well-Being (psychologytoday.com)
- HAPPINESS OR JOY? Which would you rather have? (spiritualsobriety.wordpress.com)
- The Pursuit of Happiness (beyondboulevard.wordpress.com)